Cannot express how disinterested I am in seeing traumatized characters “reconcile” with their canonically shitty parental figures.
I probably don’t have to even say this but this has turned out to be the most “omg Blorbo from my shows” post I could have made. I have no idea who tf 90% of the people in the tags are but you’re very passionate about them.
Teacher, filming: Ladies and gentlemen, here we are, it’s 2021 and all of students are yet again holding hands, and they just love each other so much- oh wait no, Josh is holding us at a 500,000 volt charge and now Mark’s hair is starting to go. [students begin shouting, teacher speaks louder over them] And so, Alex is going to give him a fist bump, and everybody is going to be so happy. Alex, whenever you are ready, go! [As Alex executes the fist bump, there is a small popping sound of an electrical shock, followed immediately by the pained screams of the entire class.] end audio description
[ID: An angry Klingon from Star Trek yelling “Everybody was harmed during the making of this video” /end ID]
[Transcript] When making clothes is your main hobby, eventually you’re gonna get to a place where you have more clothes than is honestly reasonable or useful to you.
(I) swear this problem is probably ten times worse when you’re into costuming. The amount of stuff that I have that I made ’cause it sounded fun, but I’ve never actually worn it anywhere is, frankly, embarrassing.
But that’s actually kind of the great thing about tiktok.
Now when I make something excessively elaborate for literally no reason and with nowhere to wear it, I can just show you guys instead!
When I need to straighten out my layers I just: [jumps up and down]
Today the look is “18th century garden party” and the occasion is nothing.
Weirdly this is one of the cheapest big fancy costumes I’ve ever made. When I made it I was pretty well aware that I was probably never actually gonna end up wearing it anywhere, so it’s just made out of quilt cotton. I paid, I think, five or six dollars a yard, and then it’s about twenty yards to make something like this.
There’s a matching hat, by the way.
So lately, I’ve been trying not to think of my hobby in terms of, “Do I need this?” “Will I wear it?” Honestly, that’s really just not the point. I make stuff like this because I think it’s fun to make. And I feel like that should be enough. [/Transcript]
Can we pls appreciate Norway creating full on characters complete with backstories and conspiracy theories surrounding their real identities for eurovision this year like come on that’s dedication
I hope Keith and Jim never go back home to the moon
i’ve been on hold at my library for a book about asexuality for a few weeks and i just read an article about some concepts in the book re: consent. and holy shit. blew my mind. i’ve NEVER read about consent in the context of a relationship with an ace and an allo that resonated so strongly with me, and as a person in such a relationship!! it’s so!!! i’m even more excited for the book now.
god okay, just to gush about this more, the author suggests using the categories of enthusiastic, willing, unwilling and coerced consent (rather than just “enthusiastic consent” or “no means no”). i really recommend reading the whole article linked above, but what blew my mind is the distinction between enthusiastic and willing consent. it gets broken down like this:
Enthusiastic consent:
When I want you
When I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes OR saying no
When saying no means missing out on something I want
Willing consent:
When I care about you though I don’t desire you (right now)
When I’m pretty sure saying yes will have an okay result and I think maybe that I’d regret saying no
When I believe that desire may begin after I say yes
and like!!! it made me realize i may have never actually enthusiastically consented in my life, but like, that doesn’t mean i have never or cannot consent! i almost always fall into the “willing consent” framework and i’ve never seen that….validated anywhere. anyway, it’s just given me this perspective about my sexuality and consent in general and better ways to relate to my partner and!!! idk!!! thank goodness for other ace people, is what i’m saying.
This is very useful and a lot of sex work can also be best understood as willing consent, where the indirect consequences of having sex (getting paid) are what is desired and the direct consequences (having probably-mediocre sex with someone you don’t actively desire) are not considered so negative that they outweigh the indirect consequences.
Which is a definition of consent that gives sex workers agency and sees their consent as a choice made again and again based on the pros and cons, not something that is coerced and also not something that always exists by default simply because they are sex workers.
Recognizing willing consent is probably validating for a lot of people who have consent to sex without meeting the definition of enthusiastic consent.
I so do not feel good but I keep desperately trying to draw and nothing looks good or feels good and I know I should just Not and nap or something but I’m just sitting in vague panic mode like all I can do for myself is draw and fill out towers of paperwork
