The weirdest thing happened to me the other night.

I went to a party thing with the friend I’m staying with.  It was just a friend get together, nothing special, but the people there, obviously, only know me by my given name, and it was extremely uncomfortable getting called that.  

Aside from my family and random professional contacts, they’re the only people who have called me that in years.  The friends I made before I left Portland were all calling me Lady. I met up with Tinsnip and Bmouse those times, and I am Lady to them.  I go to cons and I am Lady.   I used to talk about feeling a little dual personality about my names, but I’m starting to feel a total disconnect and discomfort with my given name now.

(This separation is also why I get very short with those of you who know my given name and ever use it online!  I’ve stopped sharing that information because I’m tired of running damage control when people forget and start using it.  It’s just easier if you never know it to start with!

If you happen to know my given name, please do not use it!)

transkaidan:

do u ever have that one female character who u like that could literally beat u up and you’d say thanks

(via noodle-is-gudle)

lovejustalittlebitharder:

friendly reminder that if i have ever befriended you and have not spoken to you in a while it’s nothing you’ve done wrong it’s just because i’m a piece of shit at keeping in contact with people and i still love you okay good

(via feltelures)

mamamantis:

the whole “anger is poisonous and bad for u” mindset was created by people who didn’t want to deal w the justified anger directed at them by others

anger is powerful and important, anger is fuel, and only you determine whether or not your anger is good or bad for you

(via noodle-is-gudle)

burgrs:

kinda pissed about not being a mermaid

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