One of the most dangerous things about forgiveness is that it undercuts your ability to let go of your pent-up emotions. How can you acknowledge your anger against a parent whom you’ve already forgiven? Responsibility can go only one of two places: outward, onto the people who have hurt you, or inward, into yourself. Someone’s got to be responsible. So you may forgive your parents but end up hating yourself all the more in the exchange.

I also noticed that many clients rushed to forgiveness to avoid much of the painful work of therapy. They believed that by forgiving they could find a shortcut to feeling better. A handful of them “forgave,” left therapy, and wound up sinking even deeper into depression or anxiety.

Several of these clients clung to their fantasies: “All I have to do is forgive and I will be healed. I will have wonderful mental health, everybody is going to love everybody, we’ll hug a lot, and we’ll finally be happy.” Clients all too often discovered that the empty promise of forgiveness had merely set them up for bitter disappointment. Some of them experienced a rush of well-being, but it didn’t last because nothing had really changed in the way they felt or in their family interactions.

- Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)

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tinsnip said: No cranky tags. You are Amazeballs.

Oh, it wasn’t cranky!  It’s not like ‘yeah, as if *I* can do anything’  the delusion is more, 'I can do all the things’ because I have an inflated sense of how easy every artistic task will be for me based upon my comfort with drawing/painting/etc and my unusually successful track record with fixing miscellaneous electronic items.  And Lemon was right there with me putting gold stars on the situation because she figured I had super powers after conquering failing computers, broken tablets, poor watercolor decisions, and whatever other things I’ve done since we met.   Lemon and I have extreme inflated faith in me on the sewing front is basically what I’m saying here.

I’m aware that more horrible things are likely to confront me in the projects to come and that being smart enough to use the internet to diagnose and fix problems does not make me awesome at this yet, but so far I’m finding that excessive prep reading combined with overly healthy confidence in artistic and crafty ability has done well thus far.

I will, however, accept Amazeballs.

chroniclesofkanarnia said: what are you making?

At this very moment, nothing, because it’s been ages since I used a sewing machine, and even when I did use one, I was not doing it properly. So I’m mostly getting myself used to doing things, BUT once I do that, then fix several pairs of old pajama pants that don’t need to look nice, and fix one shirt that does need to look nice, I’m making some plush dolls.  They may be of the baby bean bag variety.

I’ve made a few plushes before by hand, but the process takes a long time and I’m the opposite of precise.  I also never really bothered to learn a variety of stitches. (I was not taught to sew in school. I was instead taught to make cookies from a box.  So this was all self-motivated sewing.)  So I planned to use the machine in order to compensate for my inconsistent stitching, and for me to get to interesting check points in the process sooner, thus ensuring I will actually continue doing the project because some kind of reward is being given. 

It’s like exploiting the weaknesses in my brain/attention span. 

Luckily, I want the end result of the project very much, and it’s been a very motivating force to do all this fussing I’ve had to do to get the machine to work at all.  It looks like it was dropped or jostled around a lot in the mail when I had to move, so there are some things that are a little wonky, and I need to replace the lightbulb, but other than that, so far, so good.

metatronis:
“ Starburst #54
So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact... metatronis:
“ Starburst #54
So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact... metatronis:
“ Starburst #54
So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact... metatronis:
“ Starburst #54
So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact... metatronis:
“ Starburst #54
So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact...

metatronis:

Starburst #54

So I found a magazine with a joint Andy/Sid article I hadn’t seen before. It features Andy & Sid being super cute BFFs, talking a little bit about their play and the tour, and oh yeah it has Andy talking about the fact that he REALLY WANTED TO DO AN AUDIOBOOK FOR ASIT but the audio people were incompetent ding-dongs so it never happened. Seriously, a pox on whoever effed that one up.

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SHIT NO ONE TELLS YOU WHEN YOU START TO TUMBLE

faejilly:

filthypolak:

wolfwrecked:

  • Only the FIRST FIVE tags you use on a NEW POST show up in the tracked tags
  • Only the FIRST TWENTY tags on any post on your blog function (i.e click tag #21 and it will say page not found)
  • When you’re in your messages, you can click the top right corner of an ask & it will take you to a permalink page. Go to ‘edit’ (top right of page) and reply using the post edit screen (and add tags without an extension)
  • Always Reblog, Never Repost
  • Tumblr Etiquette: don’t delete the OPs caption, consider it part of the work as a whole.
  • Don’t tag your hate. If you don’t like a character or show or whatever, don’t tag your new post with their name/title/whatever in the first five tags. It shows up in the tracked tags. People that track a tag do so normally cause they love a thing. Don’t ruin a thing. No one likes a ruiner.
  • Tumblr default reblogs long text posts as links and its a pain in the ass. Who ever wants them as a link. No one, ever. When you’re reblogging a text post, go to the Aa drop down menu in the top right & select ‘reblog as text’. 
  • When you add a comment to a post, the OP sees it. Just so you know. There’s a whole etiquette on commenting vs tags but it’s your blog do what the fuck you want

- you can view all the posts made in a particular day on someone’s blog by typing the url http://blogname.tumblr.com/day/2012/12/23, the order is year, month, then day

- if somebody’s blog is blanked or their theme is dysfunctional and you hate it you can view the blog without a theme by adding /mobile to the url. use this power responsibly and don’t creep on people who don’t want to be creeped on, also if someone has an ip tracker and you don’t want to show up on their ip tracker view their blog under /mobile

- search on tumblr blogs is dysfunctional so use http://blogname.tumblr.com/tagged/insert-tag/ urls instead to find all posts with a particular tag

- reblogged copies of posts are never tracked in tumblr tags (tags on tumblr, not an individual blog) so if you’re tagging a reblog for it to be tracked don’t bother because you’re wasting your time

- 99.9% of the time you can’t you can’t get somebody’s street address from their IP address alone, stop thinking you can because you’re wrong and you don’t understand how IP addresses work.

- there’s a rumor going around that you can find the identity of an anon by blocking the anon and  looking at your ignore list, this is wrong, blocking anons doesn’t add anybody to your ignore list.

- blocking the anon will ONLY prevent them from sending any more anons, they are not blocked off anon

- blocked people can’t see your posts on their dash if they’re following you, you will never see their posts in tags (though they can see your posts in tags), and you will never receive any asks they send, notifications from them will also be hidden

- get xkit, tumblr savior, tumblr hate and #wrap if you can, they will make your tumblr experience much more enjoyable

- if you try to respond to somebody who is not the op by reblogging the post from someone else rather than reblogging the person directly, the person will never know you made a response and will never see it!

- if you tag posts with trigger warnings, write “[trigger] tw” rather than “tw: [trigger]” so it’s easier for people to block with tumblr savior

- if you want to reblog a really graphic image, please click “reblog as link” and put a description in the link

- click the gear icon when making a post and you can add a source to your post, please do this for any content you post that you found on the internet and is not your own!

- pls be a little skeptical and double check to make sure you’re not reblogging and spreading false information, this is hard and we all let things slip but try and do your best!

“get xkit, tumblr savior, tumblr hate and #wrap if you can, they will make your tumblr experience much more enjoyable”

XKit actually has black/white list functions like savior, and a block posts option like tumblr hate, and a fix for the tags so they wrap, if you only want to manage one extension.  (I still have tumblr savior as well, because xkit’s version is a little awkward with a really long list, but it is a pretty comprehensive extension.)

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tinsnip asked: Why doth Jack engender such hate?

It’s not Jack specifically on my end, he’s just the one everyone asks about and it’s irritating to have people see that I did all that work and say nothing but, “what about jack harkness”

or River

or fucking Idris, I don’t even know why people ask about that.

Especially because I know that that means that they know/give fuck all about the entire rest of the duration of the show, because then they should also be asking me about Katarina, Sarah Kingdom, Brigadier Lethbridge-Stewart, the entire UNIT crew, Kamelion, Chang Lee, and every other person who was recurring in some way and/or traveled in the TARDIS.

It’s really annoying to me to have people dismiss all of my work over one character who didn’t fit the limits I set for my project.

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