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synthetic-ultramarine asked: I think i'm maybe arriving late to the marginalized sexual orientations discussion? but i just wanted to say that all the stuff on your blog about asexuality in fandom really resonated with me. It started a train of thought that eventually led to me finally feeling comfortable identifying as demisexual, and I've been walking on air for the past two days because of that. thank you. ( also i absolutely adore your art and fic and the way they portray love and relationships )

You’re not late, it’s kind of a free for all here in Lady Town.  You guys can send me messages about whatever, whenever.  

And I am so, so happy you sent me this message~  

Just, shit, that I can help someone with all the stuff that tortured me for years?  I really needed a actual human talking about it extensively, or even just in contexts that made sense to me.  I think instead I found the term on some ancient forum and I knew no one else, just that it was a thing that existed.  It’s hard to feel valid like that.  That someone can say, ‘Yeah, the discussions you were having helped me figure out some part of me.’ That’s so fantastic!  I’m so glad all these discussions have helped people or taught people something or ANYTHING like that.  Anytime I worry about annoying people with all this, I think of hearing things like this. I love getting messages about things like this, really, thank you so much for telling me, I’m so glad it’s made you feel so good!

(And thank you for the lovely words about my work~!  I’ve been feeling so much better about it lately because of all of you guys.  I feel so much better, in  fact, that I didn’t know I had felt that bad, I was just used to the feeling.  "I did not know I was so empty, to be so full" strikes again, I guess!)