when my dad’s been an bitch he ‘apologizes’ by bringing me coffee in the morning, and i respond by letting it get cold & gross & accumulate for days. the most cups i’ve gotten in a row before he cleans them up is 4
i don’t like coffee
Also… i wasnt gonna interact with this post, but I looked at the notes (And the last tags Gaud put here) and… ya that’s not how you apologize. You apologize with words not by buying someone’s forgiveness with coffee. This is not an apology. It’s a guilt trip. It’s a “see you can’t be mad at me I do things for you”. this is the kind of behaviour that made me distrust my mother.
And to expend on the tags: I have parents who never actually paid attention to how my taste in things changed as I grew up. As a result they still tease/bully me over things I used to do as a kid. How I was picky as a kid and they never noticed when I started to actually eat a variety of things. I’m pretty sure they still think I don’t like sauce on my spaghetti or that I’ll only eat very specific cuts of meat, or that I still don’t eat broccoli. I’m pretty sure that they forgot that I told them that I’m queer and I litterally told them this summer. So ya… miss me with the “I’m sorry for your dad” shit.
Sorry gaud for highjacking your simple post. It just hit kinda close to home and seeing people try to make it seem like you’re being too petty really got to me.
This is not an apology. It’s a guilt trip.
We had a motivational speaker talk to us on Thursday to talk specifically about something he calls TNTs (or Tiny Noticeable Things) and to demonstrate he told us a story of a lady who is on the board for an international bank.
She told him a story of how a earlier on in her career she was in a team of two, working closely with this guy to travel all over the world, talking to clients and establishing connections. For nearly 4 years, every week they’d spend 3-4 nights a week in a hotel somewhere, seeing more of each other than their friends or family.
One day she hears a rumour on an office water cooler breeze… her teammate is leaving for greener pastures. She thinks nothing of it because if he is he will tell her.
Sure enough, a few weeks later, he knocks on her door. He knocks with one hand, as his other hand is holding something behind him.
He comes in and he says hey.
He says I know you’ve heard. He says it’s true.
He says he has grown so fond of her. He says two people must have such a special connection, if they are able to spend 4 years in each others’ hair and still feel able to do 4 more. He says she inspires him, she is going to move the world, he’s sure.
He says he couldn’t have asked for a better partner for this job.
So as a goodbye gesture, he pulls out from behind his back a beautiful huge vintage bottle of champagne. They bid each other good luck and he leaves her office.
She looks down at the bottle in her hands.
“And that’s when I burst into tears.” She said to the motivational speaker.
“Is it because you were so overwhelmed by the kind gesture?”
