survivorsuggest:

the thing with trauma is that it impacts you much later. time doesn’t heal the wound, it only covers it up with dysfunctional coping mechanisms, and then one day you are forced to deal with that. it’s scary because you think, why am i not over this yet? it’s been so many years, why am i struggling now? and i wanna tell you that this experience is one that every traumatized person goes through, and it doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you a normal human being. your mind protects you from the impact as long as it can, but it can’t do that forever, because it’s such an enormous task. nobody can go through trauma and come out unscathed. so don’t beat yourself up about being injured. back then you could only cover these wounds up quickly and now they are infected. that isn’t your fault, but it’s important you tend to them now. and yes, it will take time to heal, but you are not alone in that. there are so many people going through those struggles. you are never the only one, you are never a disappointment. you are normal in the way you deal with trauma. take your time and treat yourself kindly.

(via justemotionalabusesurvivorthings)