Recognizing Abuse Masterlist
Signs that you’re living in abuse:
- Behavioral patterns of living in abuse
- Was I abused? Checklist
- Not knowing you are a victim
- Signs your family is abusive
- Making excuses for your abusive parents
- Experience of living in secrecy
- What they taught you was abuse
- Emotional experiences of living in abuse
- Shame and guilt: how abused children feel
- What makes parents abusers (actions)
- Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist
- Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist
- You are not allowed to mention the past
- Why you still love abusive parents
- Parental behaviour that isn’t normal
- Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you
- Experience of “not belonging anywhere”
- Red flags for abusive parents
- Healthy vs Abusive Chores
- Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?
- Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)
Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:
- “This is my house” rule
- Start living in the real life!
- Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home
- Common abuser hypocrisies
- Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?
- Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless
- Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour
- Why your abusers are not good people
- Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change
- Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?
- Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”
- Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)
- Incorporating trauma in raising children
- Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse
Signs your parents are narcissistic:
- Stuff delusional narcissists say
- Shit narcissistis parents say
- Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents
- Examples of narcissistic behaviours
- Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents
- What children of narcissists go thru
Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:
- CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms
- Signs you might have endured CSA
- Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist
Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:
- How to tell if a friend is not a friend
- Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist
- Manufacturing insecurities
- Red flags for abusers
- Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist
- You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel
- How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships
- Recognizing abusive friendship
Signs you’re struggling with trauma
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