things nobody tells you about grief:
-there’s a somewhat acceptable mourning period of things, depending on how large the loss. They don’t say that you’ll feel it in little ways for the rest of your life, they just expect you to stop talking about it eventually.- death isn’t the only kind of loss.
- when the world ends, it doesn’t really *end*, it’s just *your* world that ends. The world doesn’t stop just because you have. Shit keeps going, bills need to be paid, pets need to be fed, family members continue to be shit, and nobody prepares for your grief or really understands it the way you do.
- everyone grieves differently. Some people don’t cry, some do. Some throw themselves into anything that’ll hold their attention, some just get on with the business of being alive. Some are overwhelmed by fear.- grief is selfish, in a way. You mourn the loss of something or someone that was important to you, and it’s not *for* anyone else but you. Your grief is your own. Your feelings are your own. You can’t judge someone for the way they grieve, as long as they’re not hurting anyone else.
- recovery is selfish, too. By its very nature, it has to be.
- pain dulls with time, but it never truly leaves you. It hits you when you least expect it.
- there’s hope. Honest to goodness hope, in-amongst the wreckage of your life. Nothing is insurmountable if you have the right tools. It might not be success, but it’s a victory all the same.
(via propheticfire)
