Some people in the notes keep defending Straight White Men while other notes just explain that it’s Facts:
Like… This post isn’t about forgetting a name/age because of memory loss, social anxiety or dyslexia. This post is specifically about how Straight Men aren’t involved enough in their kid’s education and well-being. It’s about the inequity of gender roles, and how men aren’t expected to care too much about their children.
We have a concept for this in French: “la charge mentale” (the mental load). It explains how women are expected to do all the chores and to remember everything which is relevant about the children’s development, while the men just… aren’t.
Deadass how dads are. I was legitimately SHOCKED when I asked my dad if he even knew what high school I was attending, he got it right after a few seconds to think. But like how do these dads think it’s okay to not know literally jack shit about their kids?
My dad thought I was left handed for 13 years, then after 5 more years, I reminded him about it and he was like “wait… you’re not?”
How many times do I have to remind him I’m right handed
My dad didn’t know what my first words were and he and my mom lived together until I was 4.
The only straight men I’ve seen who aren’t like this (with exceptions of course nothing is ever certain) are oldest brothers.
One time I was eating dinner and my dad asked ‘hey did you do something with your hair?’……my hair was completely normal and curly like it always is…….he assumed I had straight hair cuz I had straightened it the last time he saw me…….
If there’s any straight guys reading this, please be better fathers than this
My Dad is literally dyslexic and I have a name from a language he doesn’t speak that’s considered pretty impossible to spell even for non dyslexic English speakers (I could read fluently for years before I could spell my own name) and he has never not been able to spell my name. He’s always known how old I am and where I got to school and what I’m studying. I’m just appalled. Straight men, do better. This shit is bare minimum.
