something I started to realize a few months ago is that “becoming a better person” isn’t born from hating yourself and anxiously striving to do better. it isn’t particularly glamorous or dramatic. it’s just work you do while also taking care of yourself, things like:
-being mindful enough to recognize why you act certain ways
-being honest about your baggage
-resisting the compulsion to “be perfect"
-recognizing the importance of your own wants and needs
-educating yourself on issues that pose a stumbling block for you
-googling things like “how to talk to people” (you can google how to do anything, even very simple things, and I recommend it)
-identifying what behaviors you’d like to change in the future
-being prepared to wait rather than seeking immediate reassurance/forgiveness for your own comfortetc.
anyway thnx for letting me ruminate about this on ur dash, hope you’re having a good day.
(via theladyem)
