This, then, is my life as a fat person. I am expected to absorb the discomfort and outright bias against my body in a world built for thin people…Should my body cause discomfort for anyone around me, it is my responsibility to apologize and to comfort them…It is no one’s responsibility to ask about my comfort. At times, someone may do me the service of offering “tough love”, berating the body I have always had and the practices they assume created it, but I am never owed consideration, much less an apology. If there is a problem, I caused it…But despite its ubiquity in conversations about fatness and fat people, that is the logic of abuse. You made me do this. I wouldn’t hurt you if you didn’t make me.
-Audrey Gordon, from What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat
(via theladyem)
