So I think an important bit of perspective to keep, as a trans person, is that you don’t have requirements for being your gender, you have options.
And the distinction makes a big difference, because options are something you can pick, see if it works for you, and abandon it if not. And you don’t feel incomplete/not trying hard enough/left out if you can’t do some options, for whatever reason (money/disability/society/just don’t wanna).
And when I say options, I mean everything from coming out to pronouns to hormones to clothes to makeup to surgery and much more. All these things are options you have. Not requirements to be your gender.
And similarly, because they’re options, there’s nothing wrong with you choosing more or less of them than your fellow trans peoples. You’re not more or less trans than them.
Shit, I’m going to start thinking about my cis masculinity this way, I like this.
Yeah I didn’t say it in the original post, but this 100% applies to cis people too. Your gender is yours, how much and what you need to do for that gender is up to you.
(via tinsnip)
