A thing I think about all the time is people who say, “Oh, I just don’t let that bother me,” when you tell them about something that you are upset or worried about. It’s dismissive at the core I guess even though it is offered as a sort of reassurance at best.

For me though, when I come to someone and I say I can’t stop thinking about a bad thing that happened or worrying about a thing that might happen, that means that I’ve already crossed the threshold of letting it bother me and I’m seeking further Solutions.

And just telling me that that’s just something you don’t let happen is like telling me that I’m just missing some obvious thing when, in reality, for me, having this problem feels like a natural occurrence.

I feel like I am in a leaky boat and I paddle up to someone and say, “I am getting wet,” and all they say to me is, “Oh, I just don’t let cracks or leaks happen.”

Like, first of all, having the leaks or cracks seems to me just kind of inherent to having a boat, like it’s just a thing that happens occasionally? This is just part of the package. How are you skipping out on the required maintenance part of this? It takes practice to not dwell obsessively on things that bother you when you have a certain kind of brain wiring and it takes maintenance to make sure your boat doesn’t fucking leak.

Second of all thanks Britney but I’m telling you I already have a crack and a leak. That ship has already sailed and mine is in danger of not. Telling me to not spring leaks in the first place is not going to help me with leaks that are already occurring. If your advice for springing leaks is to not let leaks happen then I don’t know maybe you ought to start being more aware of your yacht brain while some of us are hanging out in a paddle boat.